From friends to lovers
There is probably nothing as frustrating as trying to figure out whether or not a guy likes you. A lot of them aren’t really good at expressing themselves, which forces you to play Sherlock Holmes trying to find clues that could give you an idea.
What did he mean with that emoji he sent? Was he staring at me, or was he just lost in his thoughts with his eyes fixed in my general direction?
If you are in such a situation, then don’t fret. We have your back! Here are 15 signs he wants you more than a friend.
Of course, it is not an entirely foolproof list, and context always plays a huge role in determining just how accurate these signs are.
However, for the most part, if a guy does any of them, they probably are interested in more than being another buddy on the contact list.
15 signs he wants to be more than friends
He makes an effort to spend quality time with you
It is not likely for a guy to go out of his way to spend time with someone that they do not like. He might ask you out on a date. If he is shy, he will insist on calling it a casual hangout. However, if there seems to be a ton of these “casual hangs,” then you might have a love-struck bug in your hands.
He is constantly checking up on you
When a guy likes you, he will blow up your phone all day every day. He wants to know how your day was. He wants to know what you are having for lunch. He wants your opinion on something he bought. This constant communication is his way of trying to maintain a connection with you.
He is asking all the right questions
When guys are considering making a move from the friend zone to something more, they usually do their research. He will ask you questions about your values, goals, and basically anything he needs to figure out whether you are the right match. So when the conversation shifts from cartoons and popcorn to dreams and deep feelings then he probably really likes you.
Subtle physical displays of affection
One of the most obvious and accurate ‘are we more than friends signs’ is constant physical displays of affection.
Maybe he is always touching your hair. Or he could place his arm on your shoulder as he is guiding you through a door. Or maybe he lingers a little when he hugs you. More often than not, these are subconscious acts but usually show that a guy is really into you.
He gets uncomfortable when you talk about other guys
Jealousy is another very huge sign that a guy is into you as more than a friend. If every time you talk about a crush or even another guy friend, he gets awkward or straight up shuts down, then he probably has a crush on you. So maybe don’t bring up how Jack from work bought you flowers for your birthday or many other things that could make him jealous.
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He’s making jokes about you two being together
Signs he wants to be more than friends are sometimes hidden in plain sight. He could be one of those guys whose way of telling you he likes you is through jokes. So if you have heard statements like “if we were together…” or “if you were my girlfriend…” then have your love antennae up. Someone is head over heels.
He treats you like a princess
He will buy you gifts, take you to his favorite spots, and straight-up spoil you. This is how guys appeal to women’s innate desire to be taken care of and treated like royalty. It doesn’t matter how strong and independent you are these gestures always melt your heart.
He remembers everything you mention
When a guy is genuinely interested, then everything you say is exciting. It could be anything from the story of how you ripped off a fingernail in third grade to what you ate last week for lunch. They also probably keep bringing the information up during subsequent conversations to show you that they remember.
He is protective of you
If a guy likes you a lot, he will want to protect you. You will see it in subtle gestures like how he always insists on walking on the side of the road where there is traffic. Or how he will always wait for your food to arrive before he starts eating. However, this is a tricky one because some guys do this just out of kindness and because they were raised to be gentlemen.
He shares future plans with you
You can always tell if a man is truly interested and deeply invested by his eagerness to have you as a part of his future. Some are subtle and will drop it in the form of upcoming plans. It could be anything from dinner next week to a concert next summer. Others are more direct about their intentions with you, and these offer up the best clues when it comes to figuring out whether they want to move things to the next level.
Their declarations and plans are more serious with things like proposals to move in together and expressed enthusiasm at the thought of ending up together.
He shows interest in knowing your family
A man who wants to move things to the next level with you will respect and want to be a part of your support system. This includes friends and, more importantly, family. You will notice him being more curious about what your relationship with your dad is like or what your little sister likes to do.
He will also seem super excited at the thought of getting invited to that family pool party or holiday dinner. The strongest messages you can get from this are that he doesn’t want to hide what he feels for you and wants to be involved in your life in every way possible.
You make him nervous
This is probably the cutest of all signs that a guy is into you and wants to be more than friends!
They tend to get all shy and flustered when you are around. This is easier to notice with guys who are typically not shy around girls. You might also notice it through his friends playfully teasing him about it when you’re spending time together.
If you notice him acting all weird around you, it means he is so interested that he gets scared of messing it up by doing or saying something weird. So they end up either fumbling with their words or staying completely silent entangled in a bundle of nerves.
And ladies, I think we can all agree that there is nothing more flattering and endearing than knowing you made a whole grown man nervous!
He doesn’t talk to you about other girls
When boys get comfortable with a girl as a friend, they have no problem talking about other girls.
However, if the guy has romantic feelings for you, it will be like no other girls exist on the planet. And even if the topic of other girls finds its way to a conversation, they will contribute very little.
This is their way of either consciously or subconsciously trying to show that they are only interested in one person. He doesn’t want you to feel jealous about girls he is not even thinking about.
You could very easily test this theory by slyly mentioning a girl you both know and see how he reacts about it. If he goes off on a rant about how hot or awesome she is, then he probably sees you as just a friend. If, on the other hand, he gives coy straight comments that are in every way neutral, it’s one of those signs he wants you more than a friend.
He respects you
Finally, you will know a man is interested in being more than friends by his general demeanor and treatment towards you. More often than not, he will be incredibly respectful in the way he talks to you, treats you, and acts around you in general. He will listen to your opinions, respect your personal space, value your decisions and make you feel like you are truly valued.
This, however, is not to say that boys who are not interested will not do the same. However, where feelings are involved, the respect is on a whole other level, and you will love every bit of it.
He straight up says it
And sometimes, if you are lucky, you won’t even need clues. He will come right out and let you know he wants to be more than friends.
Isn’t that the dream?