We all have that one person at work that we subconsciously get excited to see every day. Whether you call them your work spouse or office crush, some of these connections have merit.
Things get a little complicated when dealing with married coworkers.
So how to tell if a married woman likes you at work?
Are the sparks just in your head, or is there truly something there worth pursuing?
Here are a few telltale signs a married female coworker likes you.
Subtle but consistent physical contact
That is one of the most accurate signs a female coworker likes you. It is all in those subtle touches on the hand or shoulder as you talk.
It could be how close she stands next to you in the elevator or sits next to you in the board room.
It could even be a hug that lingers noticeably longer than those given to other coworkers.
Whatever it is, this shows their desire to connect to you physically. When you notice physical attraction, it is a sign she may be interested in you.
Sometimes, the woman may not be very subtle with her approach. In this case, look out for blatant flirting.
In addition to physical touch, how she talks to you, and what she talks about could be a significant clue.
Does she talk about personal things?
Does she tease you?
Does she make jokes with subliminal meanings?
If the answer on all three accounts is yes, she may be flirting with you – and this usually happens when they are interested in pursuing some form of relationship or maybe even start an affair.
She proposes out-of-work hangouts
Married women do not have all the time in the world. So if your cuffed coworker makes time to hang out with your after work, she is likely very interested in you.
She could ask you out for drinks after the office day or invite you to her events.
The most crucial distinction between this and platonic hangouts is that when a woman is interested, the invitations are limited to you alone and not the entire office or a large group of colleagues.
Reaches out during non-office hours
In addition to inviting you out after work, another sign a married female coworker likes you is when she reaches out to you during non-office hours. That includes informal calls, casual text messages, or even social media flirting.
Remember that she is trying hard to communicate with you when she doesn’t have to, and more importantly when she could get into trouble for it.
So, she must like you!
She makes a point to remember the little things
When a woman likes you, she tends to remember the tiny details. It includes everything from your birthday and your favorite lunch order to that drunken anecdote you told during an office Christmas party.
If you find a married coworker casually brings up these details, it could mean that she likes you.
They may also go out of their way to get gifts or make thoughtful gestures based on the information they remember, which is even more of a sign that she is interested in you.
She puts more effort into her appearance
That happens almost ubiquitously with all married women interested in other men. So, if you are curious as to whether or not your coworker is making moves, pay close attention to her appearance.
You may notice that she has changed how she does her hair or makeup all of a sudden. She could also start dressing in more flattering outfits.
What gives it away the most is when she starts hanging out around you more after these changes. She may be intentionally or subconsciously trying to get you to notice and comment on the effort.
It’s all in the smile
Another one of the best signs a female coworker is attracted to you is the smile. Of course, women have many reasons to smile. Maybe it is a bonus season, or she just landed a major deal. However, if she smiles more at you than other coworkers, there may be something there.
It could also be in how she smiles at you in addition to the frequency. If it is a bashful or seductive smile, chances are very high that your married coworker has a huge crush on you.
She always finds an excuse to be near you
It is particularly easy to notice if your job doesn’t have you close to each other. Whether it is separate working spaces or different schedules, if a married woman likes you, she will always find a way to be near you.
She could hang around a little after her shift to say hey. She may consistently come over to your space with all sorts of excuses, from borrowing paper to merely saying hi.
That shows that she wants to be around you, whether it is to get to know you better or revel in physical chemistry.
Other coworkers start to tease you about it
You may not always have the best radar to pick up on these subtle signs that a married female coworker likes you. Fortunately, every office has that person or group of constantly vigilant whiffs of office romance.
What you do not notice, they definitely will. And if you are close enough, you might get a lot of teasing about it.
So, listen to your other coworkers when they mention that someone may be interested. Sometimes the outside perspective is the clearest.
She could just straight up tell you
You could also be lucky enough to have a married coworker who is frank and just straight up tells you that they are interested in you.
In this case, you don’t need to go on detective mode or fight your nosy coworkers. All you have to do is decide what to do next.
Unfortunately, not many married women are bold enough to make such a vulnerable move, so always keep an eye out for the other telltale signs.