What a year it has been
The world of romance and courtship is one that is very dynamic. However, there seems to have been more drastic deviations in the past couple of years than in recent memory. A lot has changed from how we meet to the rules that govern our interactions.
There are also some trends that have emerged that are worth mentioning. If you have actively been dating, then the chances are that you have experienced or witnessed some of these fads. You are probably even guilty of a few of them. However, if you haven’t been in the scene here are a few you need to be aware and prepared for before you get back into the game or start with online dating in 2019.
Trends you need to be aware of
This type of phobia is without a doubt the most common trends of them all. It is sometimes also referred to as benching. Here, you find an awesome guy or girl who talks to you every single day. You get along super well, have a lot in common, and it truly seems like a match made in heaven. However, when you get to a place where you want to move things to the next level they hit you with those five painful words.
“I’m not ready to commit.”
The fake beau trend
These days, if it didn’t happen on social media, then it doesn’t count. The obsession with displaying private matters to the public is what has led to this second interesting trend. The faux-beau trend involves pretending that you are in an enviable serious relationship while in real life you are as painfully single as it gets.
Bragging, also sometimes referred to as flexting in modern lingo and you will either love it or hate it. It is where people get a free pass to brag and show off their achievements without judgment. You could send your love interest a photo of yourself on the beach on holiday to show you are not too badly off financially. It could also be a photo of those killer cheese-grater abs on your profile. It is still bragging, but the indirect nature of it makes it more tasteful than outright proclaiming your awesomeness.
No more playing hard to get
Playing hard to get the single most positive trend when it comes to 2018/2019 dating. No one has time to keep chasing you with so many options out there. There is no room for childish games. However, this doesn’t mean that people are easy and loose. It just means that they are more forward when it comes to disclosing their interest or lack thereof.
A new trend is replacing Catfishing, and it is in a lot of ways similar to the old nightmare of a trend. With kittenfishing, you have individuals setting up genuine accounts but telling one too many white lies about themselves. It could be about the amount of money they make, their interests and even their relationship status. It may not be as bad as Catfishing, but it is still super misleading and therefore annoying.
Ghosting and haunting
Dating these days has a supernatural twist to it with trends like ghosting and haunting. Ghosting is where someone you have been having constant communication with all of a sudden drops of the radar with no warning. Haunting, on the other hand, is the reverse of this where someone you have turned down fails to take the hint and keeps trying to reach out. Both are annoying and make finding love in 2019 a challenge.
The swiping is cheating movement
There is still a running debate with people on either side being very passionate about their points of view. However, there is an overwhelming majority of the opinion that maintaining an online dating presence is not ok while in a relationship. It is a trend that needs to be adopted if relationships are to survive in this day and age.
In a nutshell
If there were one perfect word to describe these trends, it would be ‘interesting.’ A few of them represent positive change and progress towards a more fun and open-minded dating environment.
Unfortunately, most are annoying and disappointing which is why you need to go in ready. If you are just starting with online dating please be cautious and don’t hesitate to read a lot and educate yourself before diving in this world. There are many guides available to get you started.
Another important thing to remember is that whether you are being ghosted or kept in the friend zone, then you are not alone. It doesn’t mean it is ok, but it makes it easier to swallow.