It isn’t always as it seems
One of the best things about online dating is also one of the worst things about it. There are thousands of options. It means that even when you have found a great match, there are still numerous alternatives out there to consider.
Unfortunately, many online daters are never just satisfied with one relationship. They take full advantage of all these platforms have to offer ‘committing’ to as many people as they can. If you are all about monogamy, then this might rub you the wrong way. Here are a few tips and tricks that should help you identify such serial daters and avoid them for your own sake.
How to spot serial cheaters online
Dodgy answers to important questions
Every time you try to get deep and ask serious questions you never get a straight answer. That is common with serial cheaters who do not want to give up too much potentially incriminating information. You will experience this mainly when you start asking about things like past relationships and current social life.
Always avoiding offline dates
If your online partner keeps canceling or straight up refusing to go on physical dates, then something is not right. That usually happens because they do not want to get seen out in public with someone new. It is also often because their main relationship keeps them fully occupied and they cannot risk taking time off to meet you. So if your online beau doesn’t appear interested in a physical date you better kick rocks.
They keep their friends and family out of the loop
Sometimes, the person may agree to meet you for dates, but they refuse to let you meet their friends and family. When someone goes out of their way to keep such a secret, it is never a good sign. More often than not, a serial cheater will be opposed to a family or friends introduction if these people have already met another current lover.
Many active online dating profiles
No one on planet earth who is serious about their relationship still keeps an active online dating profile. And forgetting to deactivate it is not a legitimate excuse. If you find out that your partner still has one or more active accounts, then that is a sure sign that you got played.
The fishy timing for calls, video chats, and texts
Unless you are on drastically different time zones, calls or texts through your chosen mobile dating app during weird hours of the day are suspicious. These mean that the person not only has another active relationship but is probably also seeing these people offline. So you are not only getting cheated on but you’re also a few steps behind your competition.
Moving too fast too soon
Serial cheaters on online dating platforms usually only want one thing; sex. They also tend not to waste any time asking for it. They may ask for phone sex, raunchy photos or physical hookup sessions. Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing bad about a little fun. However, if it all happens too soon, there are chances that he/she is also trying to get the same elsewhere.
Excessive use of pet names
It might seem sweet when he calls you sweet pea or when she calls you babes there is no denying that. Unfortunately, some people use these pet names as a way to avoid mixing up names of all their current dating projects. It is not a 100% sure sign, but it is worth investigating.
A significant history of unfaithfulness
The best indicator of future cheating is the past. It is always important to give people a second chance but not to disregard their history completely. That is especially the case if they do not seem particularly remorseful about their old ways.
They don’t post about you on their social media
It is another one that is not 100% guaranteed regarding accuracy but is still worth considering in a day and age where if it isn’t on social media it doesn’t exist. When investigating this clue, try and distinguish between a cheater and someone who likes to keep their personal life private.
Your gut says so
If you have a feeling that something just isn’t adding up, then it is best to head out the door. Trust me; you do not want to wait for proof that you were right all along.
These 10 are red flags that you should constantly be looking out for. It doesn’t matter whether you just started talking of you have had an online LDR for months. Remember that the most important thing is that you protect your heart at all cost. And constant vigilance is a great way to start.