Are you frustrated with your inability to attract a healthy, long-lasting relationship?
Are you sick and tired of being alone for what seems like forever?
While being single has its perks, humans are hardwired to crave love and affection. If you’ve already started thinking, ‘Oh, I got so sick of being on my own’, it’s crucial to stop your despair dead in its tracks, and here’s how.
Change Your ‘Tired of Being Alone’ Attitude
Your attitude towards your singlehood can be life-defining. Sitting stuck in your ‘forever alone’ vibrations will keep you on loop, repeating what you already know.
Instead, change the ‘frequency’. Take your mind off your aloneness. Shift your focus from ‘I’m so tired of being lonely’ onto something completely unrelated to romantic love.
Don’t waste your energy on the fact you are single. Things happen when time is right, and that can be at any moment. Have faith!
Face Your Fear of Intimacy
If you are afraid to be intimate (emotionally, mentally, or physically), no matter how wonderful another person is, your fear will sabotage all your relationships, one after another.
Intimacy issues are easy to detect, most of the time! However, they can be confused with coldness, indifference, or even anger. These issues arise when your relationships get ‘too close and personal.’ That is when you start pushing people away, and your emotional unavailability makes them leave eventually.
If you are tired of being alone, maybe deep down, you are afraid of real intimacy.
Resolve Personal Trauma
The answer to ‘why am I alone?’ may lie in your unresolved personal trauma. Our survival instincts help us protect ourselves when we go through a traumatic experience.
You keep telling yourself, ‘The past is in the past, I live in the now,’ but you still attract unhealthy and turbulent relationships. Unresolved personal trauma also manifests as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, inability to resolve conflicts, addictive behaviors, etc.
Find out why certain behaviors in others trigger you to go into self-defense mode. Now that you have identified the problem, it’s time to get to the bottom of it.
Change Your Perception of Relationships
Growing up without learning what a positive connection looks like it can affect all your relationships as an adult. With no model of a healthy relationship, you created this false image of what love looks like.
Your core beliefs about the world, others, and yourself all get filtered through the prism of your upbringing. But having a physically or emotionally abusive parent doesn’t make love unsafe. Having an absent father doesn’t mean everyone will abandon you.
Braking patterns is hard, but the first step is always recognizing their presence. To get out of this vicious circle, you have to be honest with yourself.
Fall In Love With Yourself First
Self-love is the key to a successful relationship. It all starts within! If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect others to do it?
It might sound like a confidence problem, but in reality, it isn’t. There are plenty of confident people out there who don’t particularly like themselves.
If you are sick of being alone, maybe it’s time to fall in love… fall in love with your flaws, weaknesses, and shortcomings, but also with your qualities and virtues. Don’t search for the perfect date; become the perfect date.
Celebrate your small victories and go easy on yourself when you are less than perfect. It’s okay. We all have ups and downs.
Lower Your Guard, Not Your Standards
‘You are always alone because you’re too picky’!
How many times have you heard your friends saying this? Well, honey, let me tell you something. It’s absolutely fine to have high standards. Don’t shrink yourself just to fit in someone else’s box!
Say ‘yes’ to dating, but don’t settle for someone you are not compatible with. You will end up with a mid-life crisis and married to someone you are on a completely different wavelength with.
Dating people just for the sake of not being alone is a big mistake!
Find Your Tribe
It’s fine to wipe your life clean off toxic people who only bring you down. ‘I’m so tired of being alone’; sometimes, sounds more like ‘I’m so tired of being with the wrong crowd.’
Surround yourself with people who understand you and bring out the best in you. The quality of those around you has a deep impact on the quality of your life in general. Your peers shape the way you look at things, affect your reactions and thought-processes.
The right friends will make going through challenging times a lot easier.
Final Words
Remember, you are worthy of love and happiness, and your ‘always alone’ days will soon come to an end. It’s just that, sometimes, the Universe has its funny twisted ways of bringing us together with the right people at the right time. Maintain a positive attitude, keep the faith and read those dating for dummies tips.!