In the dating world, there are all kinds of relationships. Love is where things get tricky… it might feel warm, fuzzy, and perfect, but what does that mean for your relationship status? And are you ready for that next step? A lot of men are left clueless when it comes to their relationships, but we’re here to help.
You’ve been dating for some time, and enjoy your time together. Things have been good. Perhaps all these things are the start of something more serious. Perhaps not. The only way to find out is to ask, honestly. Fortunately, you don’t necessarily have to “ask” her what she wants if you can pay attention to how she acts and what she says.
Here are some obvious signs that she’s ready for commitment and that she wants a serious relationship with you, even if you’re unsure how you feel.
She mentions she’s not dating anyone else
Even if you haven’t agreed to be exclusive, this could be a way for her to let you know where she is and what she expects in return. Even if she hasn’t mentioned exclusivity in the past or outright said she wasn’t looking for anything serious, her bringing up her dating life situation is a sign that she’s she’s genuinely interested in dating only you.
She talks about your future
Talking about the future is one thing. Daydreaming is another. However, suppose she has outright made comments or had conversations with you about the future of your relationship or how things will be down the road. In that case, you are probably getting all the green lights for a serious relationship. Women don’t talk about things they don’t think about, so if they’re thinking about it, it’s probably an eventuality in their mind.
Her mood improves
If you notice that she goes from sour to sweet, or she is suddenly even happier than she was because you’re around, that could mean she’s really into you. It definitely one of the most obvious signs she wants to be your girlfriend. Even subconsciously, when we’re around people we care about, we tend to be in a better mood and state of mind. Pay attention to her moods over time and compare them to when you’re not around. You might be surprised at what you discover.
She opens up
If she starts opening up and telling you her secrets, she trusts you. That trust is not something that you should take for granted. Make sure that you allow her to feel safe and give her all the reasons to trust you in the first place. Usually, if someone starts getting more intimate and connected with someone, it’s because their relationship is progressing towards serious.
More physical connection
We’re not just talking about sex here, either. If you find that she’s touching you more, smiling when you touch her, or being more romantic and affectionate, it could be a sign that things are heating up. That is as much about physical connection as it is about intimacy, and that’s the foundation of any strong romantic relationship. Body language says it all!
Is she asking a lot about you?
If she’s curious about you, your life, your past relationships, and other details of your existence, it could be a good sign that she’s really into you. If she’s not, she won’t bother asking questions because these things don’t matter to her. However, if she’s begging to get to know you, it could signify that she wants things to go to the next level, but she doesn’t know how to bring it up.
She may also be just getting to know you or a curious person, but this is where you can ask what her intentions are and perhaps get her to let you know where she’s at.
Is she texting or calling regularly?
People who talk regularly are more likely to develop serious relationships than those who have fewer interactions. If you notice that she suddenly starts texting you daily or brings in the added effort of a special “good morning” or “good night” text, that’s a sign she’s more into you than you thought. She really wants more than just a casual relationship.
These are just a few ways to tell if she’s starting to get to a place where she wants a serious relationship. If she’s always talking about everyone else’s love story, she may be asking for her own. Keep this in mind, so you know where your relationship stands.
Alternatives to the Typical “Hello”
Women are just as tired of men saying hi and nothing else as you are of kicking yourself for not taking the time to come up with something more clever. Fortunately, plenty of other options will get her attention and, more importantly, engage her in conversation more than you would do than with just a friend.
Consider saying “Greetings and Salutations”—it sounds formal, but not really. Plus, it’s kind of weird and cool and might even get her attention for a Charlotte’s Web reference (if you know, you know).
Another great option is to lead with something from her profile. For example, if she’s into nature and you’re a biologist, you could lead with a corny nature joke or suggest you spend time enjoying nature together to segue into talking about a real date.
Some people like to dig right into ice breakers with fun questions and prompts. Skip the “how are you” and the “what’s going on” and get right to the real questions—how long could you live on a desert island with NO Internet if you had a mansion with a pool and all of your closest family and friends? What would you take on vacation if there was a rule that you could only pack three things in your suitcase? Get creative and make it fun.
Listen More Than You Talk
Even in the online world, listening is important. Although you “listen” in a different way via messengers and email, it’s still important to do. Make sure that you reference her profile, her former conversation, and the things that she’s mentioned that are important to her. If you feel like you’re monopolizing the conversation, apologize and prompt her to share something this time. It is polite and shows that you’re interested and want to get to know her more.
Yo get to know her more make sure to read this list of interesting questions to ask your girlfriend.